Always the Fight Ministries: Displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse. (c)2019 Nancy Virden
Waiting may be a virtue. Of course, the idea of waiting patiently receives accolades, but many of us do not wait at all. Therefore, only waiting, regardless of mood, is perhaps courageous.
In deep depression and in other mental and behavioral health challenges, a desperate need for help and hope may lead us to latch on to any idea of rescue. Generally, my first shout-out in depressive episodes has been for someone, anyone to prove ‘right now’ he or she cares. When I feel people have failed to be heroic, that is when I turn to other not-so-great coping mechanisms.
What about you? If you have been desperate for rescue, to whom or what do you reach out? Just about any rescue from difficult emotions promises solutions. These temporary answers are instantly available. Alcohol is perhaps the most popular escape mechanism. Food is there too, along with sex, porn, shopping, gossiping, hiding in front of the TV, and many more.
Expecting a human hero to make everything alright again ends up in disappointment. This is not because no one cares, rather it is because our dependencies are misplaced.
A young woman recently confessed to a mutual friend that she did not see any way out of her situation. In her view, she could not live without a certain person in her life. As our friend relayed this story to me, it was clear the young woman had little willingness to wait. Of all the substances she used to escape pain, a desire for instant results was perhaps her most dangerous survival technique. Seeking help, listening to professionals, allowing time to pass without a visible solution – these would require waiting.
The police took her to a hospital due to her threats of suicide. I hope she’s found a way to hope. In the depths of pain, it is important to trust the process of discovery. Wait for treatment to work. Wait for your strength to return. Celebrate every small step forward.
Waiting may be a virtue because it leads to rescue. With help, you can become your own hero.
Today’s Helpful Word
Psalm 86. A prayer of David
Bend down, O Lord, and hear my prayer; answer me, for I need your help. Protect me, for I am devoted to you. Save me, for I serve you and trust you. You are my God. Be merciful to me, O Lord, for I am calling on you constantly.
Give me happiness, O Lord, for I give myself to you. O Lord, you are so good, so ready to forgive, so full of unfailing love for all who ask for your help.
Listen closely to my prayer, O Lord; hear my urgent cry. I will call to you whenever I’m in trouble, and you will answer me.
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NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional, and speak only from personal experiences and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.
If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. (for international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!