Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness (c)2015 Nancy Virden
Sam was severely depressed. He spoke of hopelessness freely, and one could tell by his behavior he was upset and struggling.
In support group he reported a need to isolate and hide had earlier plopped him in his closet where he shut the door. His wife didn’t know what to do.
She hollered at him to get up. He could not. Overpowering waves of despair had made it temporarily too physically strenuous and mentally exhausting to get off the floor.
Sam’s mental health had been going downhill for weeks. He was on leave from work, ignoring his small son, and sitting around the house doing nothing. His wife supported the family financially, and was stressing out about it too. She wanted her husband back, her son’s father back, and normality. She was frightened, so she hollered.
It is difficult to remember in the moment that a majorly depressed person is temporarily ill. He or she may feel helpless and confused. Even as Sam spoke of his wish to return to work and play with his son, his depression had him hiding in a closet. Guilt added to his dark mood. He wondered aloud if his family would be better off without him.
No one would try to oust the flu by yelling at it. Depression is invisible, yet real. Behavior appearing lazy or selfish is not necessarily such. It can take a painfully long time to recover.
Sam’s wife’s plea for him to “get up and do something about it” did not feel like encouragement or a friendly kick in the seat. What would have helped is if she joined Sam in the closet and said she loved him and needed him in her life. I know this, because Sam said so. It would have given him hope.
It is important to remember most of us cannot diagnose or treat another person’s mental illness. Protocol is to reach out for professional help.
Compassionate love can prevail.
Today’s Helpful Word
Psalm 69:16,20 (NLT)
Answer me, Lord, out of the goodness of your love;
in your great mercy turn to me. Scorn has broken my heart
and has left me helpless; I looked for sympathy, but there was none,
for comforters, but I found none.
Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair.
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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a mental health professional, and speak only from personal experiences and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
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