The Fruitlessness of Whine

By Nancy Virden (c)2023

There’s a little guy sharing my living space – my roommate’s 3-year-old grandson. He goes through phases of experimenting with one manner of getting his way or another. A few months ago he tried screaming. Thankfully, that ended in the early autumn. The temper-tantrum phase is not quite gone, and he has recently picked up a new tactic- whining.

Yikes.

Often I go to my room or office and shut the door while his mother and grandmother teach him the fruitlessness of whine. Basically, they ignore him, and try to reinforce his use of honest requests and “please” and “thank you.” This is but a temporary bump that will soon be a memory like his screaming days.

Meanwhile, he sometimes sounds like a dying cat.

I dislike whining.

My roommate and I were discussing earlier today how aggravating it is when people do not do for themselves what they can do, and instead expect others to rescue them repeatedly. Bellyaching and perhaps manipulating the emotions of others to get out of doing the work they are responsible to do for themselves, they lack personal fortitude. Unfortunately, I recognize this trait to a small degree in my old self. It is a phase that passed, thank God, albeit later than for many.

There are issues of various kinds that interfere with a person becoming the best grown-up version of self. After all, we only know what we know. Some childhood and traumatic events specifically target one’s ability to mature. Chaotic and dysfunctional environments do not model or teach well the nuances of meeting one’s own needs. An individual’s style of learning may not have been met by distracted or ill-prepared parents. The list goes on.

I am grateful that the little guy in my home is surrounded by functioning adults who care about him enough to not reward whining. He will be okay, and so will we all, when we listen to the advice of wise counselors and teachers. Whining does not teach us anything except how to remain disappointed. It is fruitless.

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for teaching us how to grow up. Please see whatever way is immature in me and lead me to the path of understanding. Amen.

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