By Nancy Virden (c)2022
An article published a few years ago says that in Japan, the Rock-Paper-Scissors game has been a societal phenomenon. Useful from corporate meetings to around the dinner table, decision-making ties are broken through this nonstrategic tool. That sounds less stressful than arguing for hours!
Another tool is also helpful. Commonly we use Pros (an argument in favor of a decision) versus Cons (an argument against a decision) as a simple list comparing benefits and risks, gains and costs, and what could go right versus what may go wrong.
Add 2 more questions to Pros and Cons
Our first two questions are of the “if I do…” variety. A family is planning to go on vacation. Half the family wants to go to Switzerland while the other half wants to experience Disney Land in California. Positive arguments for visiting Switzerland such as seeing the Alps are compared to less favorable cons such as costs. A similar list made for the Disney Land option will probably help the family to choose.
However, there are two additional questions that could bring about a simpler, less stressful, decision-making process. These are of the “if I do not” variety. From personal dreams and goals to financial risks, to travel, do we ask what we may lose or gain by not doing a thing?
The family above discusses the value and consequences of not visiting Switzerland. Perhaps these include educational opportunities missed or saving money for a new car. They ask, “what if we do not go to Disney Land?” and realize that the risk of future regret is low.
Here is your template for making an honest and thoroughly considered decision.
Today’s Helpful Word
To humans belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue. All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the Lord. Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.
If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.
If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. In the EU call 112. (For other international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!
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