4 Pointers for Safely Dropping Your Fake Smile

By Nancy Virden (c)2018

In multiple support groups, I have heard, “I’m a great actor. No one knows what is behind my smile. No one sees me.”

Often, these same speakers are complaining that no one understands them or their needs. Many of us long to be known, and yet live in fear of expressing our inner self. Typically, we wear our most socially accepted demeanor in public. It makes sense then, that people only see what we allow them to see.

4 pointers for revealing more of yourself

  1. Know your audience. Choose your confidants wisely.  Significant people in our lives may not always be the safest ones. Look for a person who will be non-judgmental and is not a gossip. 
  2. Join a group. This may be a support group or basketball team.  Whatever your past time, be in a group where talking about it is okay. For example, joining a church with like-minded people gives me the freedom to be more myself in that context.
  3. Leak slowly.  Perhaps you are a bucket about ready to run over.  I get it. However, save the torrent until you know people well. Either that, or choose more than one person to talk to, offering smaller bits to each. Therapists are confidential as are pastors.
  4. Trust God. He is the only one who fully understands (even more than we do) our inner workings, desires, motives, and needs.

Through trial and error, I learned the above 4 pointers. Take my advice, if you will.  It is better to eventually find the right people than to keep yourself locked inside.  -COMMENTS WELCOME

Today’s Helpful Word

Psalm 33: 13-15

“The Lord looks down from heaven and sees the whole human race. From his throne, he observes all who live on the earth. He made their hearts,  so he understands everything they do.”

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If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. In the EU call 112. (For other international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!

Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair. NOTE: Nancy is not a doctor or a mental health professional, and speaks only from personal experience and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

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