By Nancy Virden (c)2019

An unfortunate belief is simply this: something external must happen to make me happy or successful.  

• If only someone believed in me and supported my efforts – I’d finish a project.
• If I won a million dollars – everything would be great.
• If hiring managers recognized potential – I’d have a good job.
• If only my parents had pushed me – I could be somebody.
• If someone paid off my school loans – I’d have options.
• If friends came around more I wouldn’t feel so isolated.

Reality is that rescue and strong support don’t come around often. Most importantly, no one can read another’s mind. It is helpful to say what we need.

I told my son I needed to talk it through before daring to sell my artwork. He volunteered and had wise advice. Afterward, I expressed a need for motivation because I was paralyzed with doubt. He asked if his personal financial investment would be motive enough to begin.  It was, and two months later my apron is covered in paint and adhesive.

Help comes when we look for who can offer it, and ask them for it. We are in charge of our attitudes and responsibilities. Waiting for external events to change keeps us stuck. We can take small steps forward ourselves, and begin by asking for help. -COMMENTS WELCOME

Today’s Helpful Word

Proverbs 9:12

You are the one who will profit if you have wisdom, and if you reject it, you are the one who will suffer.

If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. In the EU call 112. (For other international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!

Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair. NOTE: Nancy is not a doctor or a mental health professional, and speaks only from personal experience and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

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