What Do You Believe is Abuse? An Invitation to Discussion

Always the Fight Ministries: Displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse. (c)2019 Nancy Virden

Perfect Strangers is an 80’s physical comedy show that has returned to television via a popular streaming service. I remember liking it way back when and began tuning in. Curiosity about the stars Mark Linn-Baker and Bronson Pinchot led to reading public statements Pinchot has made regarding his career.  

In one comment he said actor Denzel Washington abused him on a movie set. Now, that shocked me because Washington seems to have a good reputation. Do I know if Pinchot exaggerated? No, I do not. These men are strangers to me, and imperfect ones at that.

Their issue reminds me that abuse is one of those words that can cover a large gamut of complex experiences. A couple facts that seem widely unknown are (a) some victims may not understand that what is happening to them is abuse, and (b) some abusers may not believe that what they are doing is abusive. 

That does not make it any less wrong. We are responsible for knowing how to behave and how to treat others. I told my boys when they were in squabbles as children, that what is a joke to one brother is not a joke if the other brother says to stop it. 

What is abuse in your understanding? I will appreciate thoughtful comments and dialogue on this subject.

Today’s Helpful Word

Luke 6:31 (The Golden Rule from Jesus)

“Do to others as you would like them to do to you.”

NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional, and speak only from personal experiences and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.
If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. (for international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!


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