Compassionate Love: Displaying Compassion for Those Who Struggle with Mental Illness (c)2019 Nancy Virden, Always The Fight Ministries
Every YES is a NO. Every NO is a YES
What? It’s true.
This is not about lying or playing jokes. It is fact that each time you agree to a plan or activity, you are simultaneously choosing not to to do something else. Every yes is a no.
Flip it, and your every no is a yes to an alternative.
This matters when priorities are lost in the mix. Under my list of primary yeses, I would include my faith, family, and myself. If that sounds selfish, keep in mind that my faith demands service to others, and doing so is part of my joy and purpose. It is trickiest when the more intimate parts of my relationship with Jesus (like prayer) and self-care (like sleep) compete for time due to busyness.
That is where planning and structure come in.
1. What are your current commitments– things and people you cannot ignore without disastrous consequences? Be specific.
2. What are your values? What kind of person do you want to be? List by most important.
3. What do you want? Decide what you want in your relationships, and for yourself. Write down what you sincerely hope for generally, long-term, short-term, and in the situation you are in now.
Asking ‘what do I want’ can shed light on why you are in a situation.
If you want someone else to change, this is out of your control. If a person is regularly crossing your boundaries and not changing even when you are communicative about the issue, maybe it’s time to ask, is this the relationship I want?
4. Are your own needs met? Y/N Which ones are not met?
You have legitimate basic needs, too. If they are not met you will grow weak. Think about what you must have to know joy. What do you need to be happy? Where are you on your list of priorities? Are you on your list? Put yourself on your list.
5. Are you engaging specific goals and priorities that support your values? Which ones?
6.After completing this analysis, think of all the activities in which you are involved.
List what you believe are your YESes and NOs
In the end, know it is you making your decisions. You are not trapped. You have the power to plan for freedom and joy.
Today’s Helpful Word
The Lord says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life.
I will advise you and watch over you.
Do not be like a senseless horse or mule
that needs a bit and bridle to keep it under control.”
Many sorrows come to the wicked,
but unfailing love surrounds those who trust the Lord.
So rejoice in the Lord and be glad, all you who obey him!
Shout for joy, all you whose hearts are pure!
***** COMMENTS ALWAYS WELCOME
NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental and behavioral health challenges. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.
If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. (for international emergency numbers, go here ), or go to your nearest emergency room. Do not be alone. Hope and help are yours.