Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness, addiction, or abuse (c) 2018 Nancy Virden, Always The Fight Ministries
I was reminded today how, when in crisis, our world seems so small. This is one reason it is important to reach out for support, and hear other perspectives.
Emotional struggles, mental illness, addiction, and abuse, may lead to shame and silence. Three obstacles stand in the way of finding your voice.
False beliefs (part 1) Fear of what might happen (part 2) and today’s third obstacle, round out this series.
Obstacle # 3 : Procrastination.
Putting anything off until tomorrow is the bane of students, entrepreneurs, and Monday mornings. We perceive an action as too hard, too painful, or not worth our time. Avoidance techniques like eating, drinking, and other substances and behavioral habits only make our situation worse.
Silence has that effect as well. Speaking up and finding your voice is often a matter of self-motivation and self-encouragement. Part of finding your voice is discovering it within.
You have your mind and right to make decisions. Take a logical inventory. What has silence already cost you? Familiar suffering is not superior to freedom. List what you have tried that did not work, and what you have not tried that might work.
In cases of abuse, chances are you have tried denial, excusing the abuser’s behavior, offering forgiveness and multiple chances, walking on eggshells, and perhaps even questioning the value of your life. Silence has not protected you emotionally or physically.
In addiction, likely you have tried cold-turkey, “final decisions”, denial, independence, and a sense of control. Silence has not led you to health.
Untreated or under treated mental illness or emotional challenges have left you with self-disgust and a sense of failure. Perhaps you have lost friends, work, or home. Denial has helped you cope. Silence has prevented you from a positive solution.
Is this what you want?
Needed: Encourage Yourself
Rah-rahs help sometimes. Positive thoughts may give us some courage. However, there are there more practical ways to build your chances for a better future.
If past efforts at speaking up did not end the way you want, go back to part 2 of this series and study your options. Did a therapist or psychiatrist not work out well? Learn what to realistically expect, and try someone different if you must. Did you not follow expert advice? Go back with a teachable attitude.
Learn from others to escape the tapes stuck on replay in your head. Listen to first-hand experiences. Many past victims of abuse escape saying, “I should have done this sooner,” or “I waited too long.” Testimonies of recovery repeatedly press the point, “You have to admit you are powerless.” For me, overcoming major depression and suicidal thinking took a deliberate decision to discover what enjoying life means.
Your voice counts because (insert your name) matters. You matter to the One True God, his Son Jesus, and to those good people in your sphere. You matter to the world because your success gives the rest of us hope. You really are loved.
Challenge your false beliefs, reach out for support, and do not put it off.
Be heard. Be free.
Today’s Helpful Word
Psalm 31:7 – song to Yahweh
I will be glad and rejoice in your unfailing love,
for you have seen my troubles,
and you care about the anguish of my soul.
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NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness, abuse, and addiction. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.
If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. (for international emergency numbers, go here ), or go to your nearest emergency room. Do not be alone. Hope and help are yours.
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