Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness (c)2014 Nancy Virden
Ah, admit it. You’ve done it.
You’re tired, your hands are full, you are preoccupied, you just don’t care… any of these reasons and more may be why you kick an item across the floor instead of picking it up immediately.
Today I did that with a delivered package. One second it was outside my door and the next it was inside. Kick.
I once had a hairbrush that stayed on the floor in a corner where it dropped. Later, seeing it there annoyed me, and a swift kick sent it into a wall near the bathroom. At least that was progress!
Someone said to me, “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” This annoying hairbrush was not going to carry itself to where it belonged! I had to decide what I wanted – a brush on the sink, or a brush on the floor?
Oh, if only the pains and sorrows of situations that do not seem to improve were so easy to fix! We would all be happy, know it, and clap our hands to show it. In reality, we often need more insight and stamina.
A shortened Serenity Prayer is quoted at 12-step meetings around the world. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
One variation goes like this: God, grant me the serenity to accept the persons I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it is me.”
That hairbrush finally landed where it belongs. I had to make that happen. In the same way, if more dire circumstances need confronting, resentments forgiven, or relationships mended, I am the one who will have to decide if I want change or to leave the mess as it is.
What is robbing you of peace? What do you want? You can leave your “hairbrush” where it disrupts your mental health or you can begin to take measures to move it.
Go ahead, give it a kick.
NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.
If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.
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