By Nancy Virden (c)2025

It is simple, we did not create ourselves and therefore can make no claim to wise judgment for our gifts, intelligence, or looks. Yet those characteristics are the basis for so much false pride that it is boring. You have met people who think their good looks define them. How about people with special gifts who may consider themselves superior to others without the same gifts? Smart people can also fall into superficial judgment.

On what appears to be the opposite side are those without prominent advantages. Healthy humility is not the same as lacking skill or talent. In fact, jealousy and envy are at the root of negative pride. One can no more be the best than be the worst. Measurement that elevates the value or worth of one person is the real problem.

A therapist once asked if I wanted to be valued (take pride in) for something worthy or for depression. That kick in the seat pushed me forward to pursue something greater than suicide and negativity. It still inspires me to use healthy coping skills and to leave a legacy of honor.

Of course, a great pianist can believe they are excellent without negative pride. A skillful artist may recognize the lack of skill in others without feeling superior as a human being. Each of us can be proud of our accomplishments. An eight-year-old is proud of having learned to play chords on his guitar at the same time Phil Keaggy wows crowds.

Our Creator endowed us with sanctity and pricelessness. Once that is fully understood, we can see others with eyes of mercy. We will rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn. Cynicism will bow to gladness and pride in someone else who is trying. Seeing oneself as an especially deserving human (or innately undeserving) will give way to honesty.

Believe in yourself to the extent that you know you are invaluable. For God chose you uniquely for certain good works. Be filled with a sense of purpose and joy. Leave negative pride behind as you view everyone (including yourself) as sacred.

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Today’s Helpful Word

Psalm 139:14

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
    and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.

If you are feeling suicidal or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S., call 988, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. For a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room; in the EU, call 112. (For other international emergency numbers, go here.) Hope and help are yours!

Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair. 

NOTE: Nancy is not a doctor or a mental health professional and speaks only from personal experience and observations. This website is not intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

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