Gain and Maintain a Mindset of Hope: Part 3

By Nancy Virden (c)2021

There was a time when hope for hope was all I had, and that only occasionally. Life is better now.

Hope for hope came with an attitude of teachability. In front of me were highly trained professionals, who maybe, just maybe, knew things I did not know. They had been around for years working with thousands of people; perhaps they could see ahead where I could not. Depression told me they were wrong to see potential in me! Acting opposite of my emotions, teachability kicked in anyway. Hope for hope whispered, I can learn from these people.

Hope for hope acts opposite by reaching out 

These past few weeks have challenged my willingness to ask for help once again. Covid tried to kick me out of any practice of self-care due to energy loss and feeling sick when I moved. I am not sure if I would have eaten if not for my church, friends, and neighbors bringing meals.

One man put air in my tires and attached my new license plate. A woman picked up prescriptions. Another woman purchased new clothes for me to leave the hospital. The difficult part is I had to ask. By telling people I have Covid and taking them up on offers to pitch in, my suffering has been much less. Instead of feeling alone during quarantine, I have peace.

Decades of playing “Smile, you’re on Making an Impression,”  gave me nothing. That the old game has no winners and there are no rewards. Answering, “fine” when sincere friends ask how I am doing and not allowing anyone to know specific needs always leads to loneliness and reinforcement of negative beliefs about myself and the world.

This self-defeating cycle is bested by reaching out and bravely accepting support, even only a little. Without the professionals interrupting my negative beliefs years ago, I would not have learned to hope. Acting opposite of the desire to hide and be self-sufficient is self-care. -COMMENTS WELCOME

Today’s Helpful Word

2 Samuel 22:31

Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ.  For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.

 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” … But God has put the body [in Christ] together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it,  so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

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If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. In the EU call 112. (For other international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!

Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair. NOTE: Nancy is not a doctor or a mental health professional, and speaks only from personal experience and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.


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