By Nancy Virden (c)2020
Surprise, surprise! You and I are not victims of a vast conspiracy to steal and control our time. You think your time is not your own? Are you a ‘slave’ to your job, your family, your church? No, you are not.
Of course we have obligations and duty, honor and all that. Keeping our word is important. Taking responsibility is a sign of character. However, no one, I repeat, no one owns our time but us.
We make time decisions all day. My son Tim worked next to a fellow who found every excuse possible to avoid his duties. From spending hours per week in the bathroom, to chatting up anyone who came by, he took home the pay Tim deserved because he worked hard to cover both jobs.
The bosses already knew the situation, and Tim took a laid-back, it-will-work-out attitude. Sure enough, the expected day came when the lazy employee was fired and Tim was promoted. All of what Tim endured was his choice. His eye was on the prize. Options included everything from whining to quitting. No one made him stick to it.
We volunteer our time to what is important to us. Eight hours a day or periods of years, we step up to complete what we have chosen to do. Like the employee, we do not have to practice honor or responsibility. We are not victims of our own decisions.
Understand, this is simply an attitude check. This is an opportunity to ask why we do what we do. Recognizing we are not trapped gives us the privilege of clearer vision. We can set goals, invent positive ways to tolerate and even rise above difficulties, and experience joy.
So, take a break. Write out your actual options. Break the depressing victim point of view, and choose wisely to be who you want.
Today’s Helpful Word
Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love,
for I have put my trust in you.
Show me the way I should go,
for to you I entrust my life. – A prayer
Always the Fight Ministries (ATFM) has been displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse since 2012. Nancy is the founder and voice of ATFM and openly shares her emotional resurrection from despair.
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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a mental health professional, and speak only from personal experiences and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.
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