Is Anxiety or Depression a Choice? It Depends…

Compassionate Love Blog: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness   (c)2017  Nancy Virden, Always the Fight Ministry

Is anxiety or depression a choice? It depends. We can purposely replay the past, or focus on all the negative what-ifs because we like doing so.  However, obsessive or racing thoughts about personal histories may occur because we do not have the tools to process them. 
Perhaps we find some reward in playing the victim.  Excessive destructive self-talk is more likely based in false core beliefs of which one may be unaware.
Fear of the future, rejection, or failure may not be resolved for some people by only thinking positive thoughts or shaking it off.  Peaceful options are more easily attained by those who experience nervousness or blue days once in awhile instead of anxiety or depression. 
While nearly everyone in existence is capable of throwing the occasional pity party,  those who fight to manage chronic anxiety and depression are practicing the opposite of self-pity and bitterness. Each day, people with these disorders function as best they can despite their brain telling them they cannot and should not. Management is a deliberate, purposeful decision to pursue honesty and healthy thinking. 
Time is wasted on judging how well a person is doing by what is seen on the outside. We do not know anyone else’s battles. If you believe you have chronic anxiety or depression, or are concerned for someone who might, seek professional help until you find what works.

 Today’s Helpful Word

Psalm 18:13
“Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”




NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help is yours.

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