The Joy of Regret

 Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness   (c)2014 Nancy Virden

photo-24784637-praying-businessmanTwo recent internet searches that led people to this blog refer to regret and the pain of looking back.

What can be done to fix our mistakes?

Let’s say we burn a dollar bill. Well, since this is a blog and not actuality, make it a one hundred-dollar bill.  You hand to me  $100 and I burn it. What is your reaction? What is mine?

This $100 cannot be spent anymore. I try to grasp it, even fish around in the ashes in hopes of piecing it back together. Hopeless.

I could get a new $100 bill, but this one is gone. When I first received it there were other choices available to me, but I decided to burn it up. It was wasted, misused, it’s purpose went unfulfilled. I abused the $100 bill.

Will I regret that? Will you?

We may long to go back and change past decisions. We had years, days, and moments. Possession of them was once ours, but is no longer. Perhaps we caused harm or failed to prevent it. Maybe we let golden opportunities pass. Possibly we burned them up for no reason at all.  

Ashes of the past cannot be held without making everything else we touch dirty.    

Today is handed to us.  Most likely tomorrow will show up too.  What do we want to see when we look back to today?

The joy of regret is our impetus to change. This is opportunity to leave a different legacy than the one we have built so far. Nothing is stopping us from taking the first step toward a new kind of life.

Psalm 118:24 says, “Today is the day of salvation.” We can drop the ashes, or waste more time trying to piece together a past that no longer serves us.

Compassionate love grasps today.


NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.

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