Have You Counted Your Friends Lately?

Compassionate Love Blog: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness   (c)2016  Nancy Virden, Always the Fight Ministry


Have you counted your friends lately? I don’t mean the crowd on your Facebook friends list. It’s not the acquaintances you see at church every Sunday, or coworkers with whom you share gripes about the boss who will be there for you at your loneliest hour. Peripheral friends – those fun and wonderful people in your social circle – no, I’m not talking about them, either.

Have you counted your friends lately?

Those who through time, effort, struggle, joy, and shared experiences have bonded so close to your own soul that you know peace when you are with them, are the friends to count. In these hard-earned friendships there is no fear, and trust is not an issue for even the most jaded heart.

Confidence has been earned by saving each other’s lives repeatedly.

Don’t tell my mom!  Keep this between us, ok?  Can you pick me up (in the middle of the night)? I’m crying so hard I can’t see. Thanks for not leaving me when I was at my worst. Yes, I’ll drop everything, where do you need me?

Have you counted your friends lately?

These are the ones you think to contact when there is good news, a funny joke, or a spurt of energy. They are few in number – maybe 2 or 3 at the most. They have your back. They will be there at the funerals and in the hospital, at the bedside, and on the phone. They reach out to you when you are hiding from the world.  You make mistakes and know they laugh with you, never at you. You do the same for them. 

Have you counted your friends lately?

You are blessed if you have them. If not, start by being a friend. Take your time, allow relationship to develop naturally, be trustworthy, and develop your strength of character. 

I’ve counted my friends lately, and I’m grateful. I am blessed indeed.



NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help is yours.


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