Come Out from Behind Your Baggage and Fulfill Your Unique Purpose

Always the Fight Ministries: Displaying compassion for those fighting mental illness, addiction, or abuse. (c)2019Nancy Virden

Once there was a 30-year-old man whose life trajectory was about to do the twist and land him behind a pile of suitcases.  All he had done was set out to find his dad’s runaway livestock.  A few days later, he was crowned king.

His nation had never had a monarch. Becoming royalty did not even require a battle. The kingship was his to design.  It was, proverbially speaking, handed to him on a silver platter.

His name was Saul. Initially, upon hearing the proposal that he become a king, he reacted as many would. “Who am I?” he said. Later, when he was to be presented to the military, he hid behind their baggage. With all authority to demand loyalty, he said nothing to some rebellious warriors who refused to bring him congratulatory gifts.

Granted, Saul lived thousands of years before the hippie movement or modern psychology.  Still, he had a full-blown identity crisis.

There are many people with little sense of self (“I don’t own my body”  “I’ll do what everyone else wants because I don’t know what I want”  “I can’t be …”.) Why this is true is beyond my grade level. The first time someone pointed it out my reaction was “What? A sense of who?” I found it difficult to comprehend a ‘me’.  However, each of us can over time, rebuild a healthy identity.

Here is the latest I’m Glad You Are Alive video. My YouTube channel started twelve days ago. This idea had been procrastinated for so long it seemed prudent to just start despite my lack of know-how.  Slowly, I am grasping this newfangled young people’s technology. Yes, I know YouTube has been around for some of your entire lives!

What matters is that this project, meant for those who struggle with suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide, has begun. Its amateurish flaws are what I feared so much it didn’t move forward at all.

Chris Tomlin wrote a song with these lyrics, “You are a good, good Father. I know you are, I know you are. I am loved by you. That’s who I am, that’s who I am.”

Discovering God’s love set in me a fire and joy that will not go out. It’s been tested. My prayer is that this particular video and blog will encourage people who are discouraged to discover what identity is, to avoid suicide, and to one day offer their unique gifts to the world.

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Today’s Helpful Word

1 Samuel 16:7 

The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.


NOTE:  I am not a doctor or mental health professional, and speak only from personal experiences and observations. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

If you are feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S. or go to your nearest emergency room. (for international emergency numbers, go here ). Hope and help are yours!



























  • Dear Nancy, I realize how there is a very fine line that goes with advising anyone when it comes to their own ethics and morals. This is especially true in regard to those individuals fighting mental illness, addiction of any kind and/or abuse. A couple of people I know of, who are “gay” have ‘mixed’ feelings between their “religious” upbringing; which they both hold as a valid ‘standard’ to measure their actions and behavior by. They speak very candidly to me about Homosexuality, Masturbation, and Pornography. One said, “Quite honestly, ethics and morals, Religion, and Sin are all “Man-made Concepts!’ ” I said hesitantly as a Christian while trying to be compassionate and cautious, “Well, Yes and No.” The other chimed in, “It’s all “relative” and doesn’t ABSOLUTELY and ULTIMATELY MATTER!” I was left trying to be neither authoritarian, nor legalistic. There’s seems to be no real Black and White answer for them. Or, is there really? Timothy


    • What a great question! Life is more gray than black and white. With that said, I write from the standpoint of faith in the inerrancy of scripture. The absolutes I stand on are: God is holy and sovereign; Jesus is the Savior from sin and death if we put our trust in him and; there are commands we are to obey. (You can read more on my Statement of Faith page.) When we are faced with a question and unsure of the answer or in what way to answer, it is always appropriate to refer to the Bible as the guide for all matters. The idea that ethics, morals, religion, and sin are man-made concepts blatantly denies the authority of the Bible. The statement that all is relative and doesn’t ultimately matter also opposes why Jesus came to earth, died, and resurrected. Your mention of a “fine line” is true. Timing can be very important. Manner of speech and tone of voice are also helpful or not helpful. People fighting suicidal thoughts may be especially sensitive to a sense of being judged and criticized. Followers of Jesus are not to get wrapped up in arguments, but we are to be ready to give the reason for the hope that we have. Hope this helps!

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